In discussing my discomfort with asking for money for my services, Coach reminded me of a key point today: discomfort, fear and doubt are all natural processes that we experience as we challenge ourselves to spend more time in the realm of possibility.
You can view yourself as spending time in different states of being. There is the 'normal', 'comfortable' state, there is the 'possibility', 'exploring' state, and there is the transitional 'defense mechanism' state between the two. If we ever move between a comfortable state and a possibility state, we must pass through the defense mechanism state.
In other words, whenever we challenge ourselves by trying something different (even if we only explore the ideas in our heads), our mind's natural response is to be uncomfortable, perhaps even scared. I often fear the fear, so to speak, but today Coach reminded me that fear arises because I am moving between states. So if I feel fear, a) I must be moving to the realm of possiblity, which is a really cool and interesting state of mind to be in, or b) I must be moving to a state of comfort and normality. But no matter what, if I feel fear, something good is coming.
I hope that by looking at fear and discomfort in this way, I will accept the process, learn some tools to 'weather the storm', and enjoy the ride, because now I know that something good is at the end of the trip.
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