What is a life coach?
What is a life coach?
In a sentence, a life coach helps their client create a new view of their reality -- a perceptual shift -- and then invites their client to take action from that new perception of reality.
A life coach helps men and women who have a deeper calling to achieve a dream, sometimes an impossible dream. Whatever they want to be, to do or to have, these inspired people haven't been able to be it, do it or have it on their own.
I don't view this as a failing or a lack; rather I support people to discover what is missing or what is needed to propel them forward.
Usually these brilliant and highly creative people know what to do or what needs to be done, but for one reason or another they are not ACTING.
This is one thing that distinguishes coaching from therapy--all sessions are aimed at creating ACTION and FORWARD MOVEMENT on goals and PROJECTS.
Furthermore a life coach helps these passionate and unique individuals get what they want because they CHOOSE to, because they DECIDE to.
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For example, a client might approach a life coach saying that they want to start a business... And they may say that now is not the right time or that they don't have the money yet, or XYZ reason is stopping them.
When we work together, with me as the life coach, we would get the business started now, or when the client decides, not at some unknown time in the future. And we would do it because the client says so, in the face of all their circumstances and reasons that it "can't be done."
Excellence is never an accident. It is always the result of high intention, sincere effort, and intelligent execution; it represents the wise choice of many alternatives - choice, not chance, determines your destiny.
Aristotle
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James Victore on Self Doubt
James Victore on Self Doubt
James Victore is an American art director, designer, and author. In 2010 Victore's monograph "Victore or, Who Died and Made You Boss?" was published by Abrams Books. In 2010 and 2012 Victore's work exhibited in The Museum of Modern Art. Wikipedia
Breaking out of self-sabotaging cycles
Breaking out of self-sabotaging cycles
There are certain situations that drive me into apparently endless loops of thought. Each thought tends to eventually lead back the original thought.
Here are questions to ask yourself when you get stuck in a head spin that you can't escape from:
What are the facts?
What's the story?
What can I be responsible for?
What do I choose to be responsible for?
What do I want to create?
What will take me forward?
One key idea is to accept that there are only two givens in any given situation--the facts and your interpretation of those facts.
A further idea is to do something to get present to what's so and be clear about where I want to go next.
These questions help me to get clear on that and get moving again.
How might you practice this in your life? What predictably triggers you into self-sabatoging thought loops? How will you remind yourself to use these questions?
I need more TIME!!
I wish I had more time!!
Besides "I wish I had more money", "I wish I had more time" is one of the most common desires I hear.
But I see this wish to be surface. There's actually another need beneath it.
I see this as a desire for change in a person's life. There is something that a person wants that they currently see as impossible to achieve, and the reason they give is a lack of time.
Consider this--a person's current way of life is only one out of an infinite number of possibilities. And it comes with its own advantages and disadvantages...
Perhaps all that is needed is a subtle shift into a different way of life to get everything that a person wants... Where there are no disadvantages and only advantages.
Further consider that between the current life and the new life there are things that need to be handled, things that need to be put in place.
My invitation to you is to define what that desired life is and then look at what things need to be changed, removed or added to get to that new life.
For you brilliant thinkers: I caution you against thinking about the how's at first... Just focus on what you want and the how's will sort themselves out.
For example, if you want more hours in a day there are a number of solutions. Why not automate some stuff? Or hire assistants? Or work more effectively -- kill two or three birds with one stone.
There are often two, three or more ways to achieve an outcome. The speed at which a person gets their results depends on how clear a person is about the outcome they want and their openness to the ways of achieving the outcome.
Now it's your turn--imagine you have all the time that you need--what is it that you would create? What do you need to add, remove or change to get from here to there?
When you think about this, where do you stall? Comment below and I'll answer in a future post!
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